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It is believed that people with common interest gel well. But
what about those who suffer from ADHD (Attention Deficit
Hyperactivity Disorder)? How do they deal with their spouse who
is normal and vice versa?
There is many a time when a person who suffers from ADHD feels
out of place in a non-ADHD world. He is seen to be inattentive,
hyperactive and impulsive. The problem becomes more intractable
if the ADHD patient is locked in an unfeeling marital
relationship. The patient's self-confidence dips and life
becomes quite unlivable. So, what should be done?
To begin with, it is important to understand the way
ADHD-affected people think. Their partners need to educate
themselves about this disorder. There is no point in throwing
tantrums if the behavior of your spouse is on account of a
medical disorder. In fact, it makes more sense to change your
ways to accommodate your spouse. There will be less conflict,
and greater acceptability.
There is no point in insisting that your ADHD-afflicted partner
shoulder the same burden as you. In fact, this is the best way
to destroy a happy relationship. It is even more foolish to
demand that your spouse make a list of things that needs to be
done, when you know that ADHD has reduced his or her ability to
be better organized. Such demands can only end up lowering the
self-esteem of your partner. A better solution would be to let
your partner potter around, and feel happy in whatever he or she
is doing.
Most of the non- ADHD partners think that their ADHD partners
are lazy and ADHD is just an excuse for their inappropriate
behavior. This is not correct. Instead of blaming your partner,
you should extend a helping hand. Also, don't overlook the pain
and suffering that your partner undergoes in trying to please
you.
Medication plays a significant role in improving the behavior of
an ADHD patient. The changes are quite noticeable, and should be
sufficient proof for any spouse who considers ADHD-induced
behavior as irresponsible.
With proper medication and love and support, the ADHD patient
can surely live a better and more meaningful life. It is for the
non-ADHD spouse to ensure that this happens.
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