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First of all, let's define "friend". Do we want to find an "old"
friend?
Lots of websites specialize in helping you find an "old"
existing Friend. These sites are called "classmates",
"reunions", "public records" or names along the lines of trying
to find acquaintances from way back, from school, the Service or
previous jobs.
Do we want to find "people"? We can use "publicbackgroundcheck",
"usa-people-search", "peoplefinders" types of sites for finding
people.
If, however, we are looking for love and are calling it
friendship initially then things get really complicated. For the
word "friendship" the Web comes up with 46,100,000 replies.
So we should be more specific about what exactly the "friend"
word means.
"a person you know well and regard with affection and trust;",
"he was my best friend at the university" ally: an associate who
provides assistance; "he's a good ally in fight"; "they were
friends of the workers" acquaintance: a person with whom you are
acquainted; "I have trouble remembering the names of all my
acquaintances"; "we are friends of the family" supporter: a
person who backs a politician or a team etc.; "all their
supporters came out for the game"; "they are friends of the
library" a member of the Religious Society of Friends founded by
George Fox (the Friends have never called themselves Quakers) "
wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn.
We can now of course rank friends: good friends, intimate
friends, family friends ad infinitum. When we then continue to
talk about "friends" and "friendship" we soon start approaching
the decision we have to make; do we just want to be penpals or
do we want to meet face to face at some point in time.
This brings us to the dangerous word: DATING. Yes, we have now
convinced ourselves that we want to date somebody. Just on the
Web or for real?
We can now play games based on the fact that most people trying
to find dates on the Web are married. Does that surprise you?
Given the anonymity of the Web it is very likely that if I am
fat and ugly I don't want to emphasize this fact when I try to
attract a date, so temptation is very great to embellish things
a bit and to say in my description that I am "Voluptuous" and
"Attractive".
Who knows, in all likelihood I will never meet this person
anyway and this is only fantasy. Guess what?
I now start corresponding in earnest on the Web with this person
I know nothing about. I tell this person all my deepest secrets,
except the fact that I am ugly and fat.
After doing this for a while my "Date" says that we should meet
in person, because it seems we are really compatible. YEEKS!
What now?
Well, you brought this on yourself and you have these options:
1. Go on a crash diet and get a face lift. 2. Forget about this
person and try again with a new date. 3. Hope your Date is fat
and ugly too so you should take a chance and meet anyway. (This
takes a lot of courage). 4. Hope your Date is pretty or
attractive and VERY understanding and will accept you the way
you are. (Fat chance).
So, anyway, there you have it, some of the possibilities you
have when you want a Friend.
One thing you should pick up from this : you are probably better
off if you are honest to your future friend or date; it may
prevent depression, bouts of overeating and Internet Withdrawal
Symptoms.
About the author:
Frank Vanderlugt is very interested in Internet Dating. You can
find out more about Internet Dating, what to do and what not to
do at: http://www.dating-service-now.com
http://www.adult-friend-finder-now.info
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