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Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of
your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for,
there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl
of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you
dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only
be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words
of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your
heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.
The first step in the heart-winning exercise for any man is to
make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to
talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get
a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a
man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be
mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language
gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap;
be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other
loser.
Let her fall in love gradually. Romance is an important part of
falling in love. When in College I had a crush on the most
beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys
were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention
from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without
disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I
said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the
meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the
initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny
message that could only be read backwards and it was all about
her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the
girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but
only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number
that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that
very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret
Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she
told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in
that manner. I made her fall in love with me in the romantic
manner.
Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the
next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to
understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be
adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the
girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and
dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship
and it always leaves individuals better off having known each
other should they break up. I and my College steady were to
break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies.
Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will
make her create room for you in her heart.
A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always
turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be
helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of
hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she
looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily
vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of
personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend
whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the
rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to
always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear
when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.
Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend -
your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life
in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her
company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt
sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl
offers you and for making you smile.
In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and
every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her,
build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell
your girl how you always think about her even when you try not
to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first
thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at
night.
Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped
beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of
sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing
your name all the year round.
You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest
in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend
to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite
each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for
each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some
fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we
decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I
wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to
her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper
conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At
sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table
were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things
that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting
that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you
imagine that?
Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once
called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the
morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told
her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their
loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the
next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.
No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow -
exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a
friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she
expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on
how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as
kissing her and accessing her inner graces.
The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have
her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are
also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels
a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a
lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin
you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is
truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication,
honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty,
respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to
her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold
her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy,
and feel loved.
Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that
gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day
admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither
feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it
is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit
simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.
The patience and self-control which you practice will make you
more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily
vitamin and win you that heart hers.
I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall
in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the
world!
About the author:
Vlad Karl is a writer who maintains a dating and love
relationship column on http://www.meetingland.com
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