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Marriages can burnout for any number of reasons. If you're
completely miserable in your marriage, there is no need to give
up just yet. Even if you and your spouse have developed a daily
ritual of fighting over the most mundane of things, there is
still hope for you and your spouse. The key to reversing the
destructive course your marriage has taken is to recognize what
behavior, or lack there of, is causing your marriage to burnout.
See if you can recognize any of these scenarios in your
relationship:
"I'm overworked and underappreciated. My husband doesn't do
anything around the house, yet I work full time, do all the
chores, and take care of the kids. I'm going to lose my mind if
I don't get any help around here!" Sound familiar? To begin, it
will do you no good to accuse your spouse of doing nothing. It
will only offend him or her. Marriage is not a competition, so
don't compare who does more or makes more money. Both of you
deserve some time for yourself, so work on a plan together to
find ways to evenly distribute the work load. Rotate the
household chores each week, and equitably divide the care of the
children between the two of you. And always remember to
recognize and appreciate all the work your partner has done.
Thank them for even doing the smallest of chores.
"I just can't seem to keep my mouth shut! I let him know every
little thing that is bothering me, and it only makes things
worse." You need to start putting things into perspective before
you speak. Make a conscious effort to ask yourself if it's
really that big of a deal. If it's not, then just let it go. If
you pick a fight over every little thing, you're just going to
burn out your relationship. So think before you speak. And
remember, "If you can't say something nice, don't say it at all!"
"When I'm angry I just can't control myself, that's just my
personality" It's time to grow up and take responsibility for
your actions. You may not be able to change your spouse's
behavior, but you can certainly change your own. You can always
improve yourself. Even if you always been the type of person to
lose control during fits of anger, doesn't mean you can't lean
how to manage your anger. It's time you take responsibility for
your behavior, and its effect on your marriage. If you feel
yourself about to lose control during an argument, just walk
away. You can always revisit the conversation later when you've
had the time to cool down and rationalize your feelings.
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