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Famous people have done it. Politicians, rock stars,
celebrities, oil tycoons, sports gods, serial killers and those
people from Friends. Somehow, these people have demanded notice
and got what they asked for and more. How did they do it? If
they can do it, why canít you?
You may think, ìBut I donít want to stand out, I want to do my
fair share behind the scenes.î While you may have a good
altruistic point. Is it really the reason? If you are quite
honest with yourself, there is no problem. You wonít even feel
any twinge of envy while your colleague who is short on talent
but worked really hard in marketing himself to your boss gets
that promotion you know you deserve!
You may say that the ones with the best mouths always get to eat
the cake. Is there no way for people with less eloquent social
skill to go up and get paid for what they deserve. Of course
there is! But there is a condition. You must really like what
youíre doing.
Surprisingly, the most effective way to be recognized as
different is to know what is different about you. Letís use
biology to make great analogies of being unique. Darwin observed
in social animal behavior that the most aggressive males in a
pack or herd usually get to mate with the females. These are
called alphas. The males who lost are either driven from the
group. These are called betas. These males compete for the right
to propagate and pass on their genes down into the future. Those
that lose out are effectively weeded out of the gene pool.
While this may seem a little extreme, this example only
emphasizes that each human being, as social beings, must be
unique in his own way and make sure he uses it to his fullest
advantage in as many instances in society as possible. He must
know what he is good at and devote his energies to make that
talent even more powerful.
So how can you tell what youíre good at? Dr. Mihaly
Csikszentmihalyi describes this human phenomenon as flow.
Zen-like in its experience, flow activity creates a profound
sense of happiness. And happiness is the key to making yourself
different.
To sum it up, to set yourself apart from the crowd, you must do
what makes you truly happy in life regardless of what profit you
get out of it. Forget the money and the money just comes.
Happiness can be found in any activity. It does not really
matter what it is as long as it matters a lot to you. So it is
important for you to recognize when you are experiencing flow
and find ways to shift a majority of your time to enhance it.
Here are the components of flow happiness:
1. Goals are clear. You know what is to be done with the
activity, and you feel up to the challenge.
2. Feedback is immediate. Youíll know the very instance when
youíve made a mistake and take steps to adjust.
3. Challenge and ability level is matched. You current skill
level matches the challenge in a way that no side has the
overwhelming upper hand. This can illustrated by the fact that
if an activity bores you, it is a good sign that you must step
the challenge up another notch to regain your interest. The
trick is to find ways to grow forward and up without feeling
like youíve bitten off more than you can chew.
4. Total attention is focused on the activity. When the activity
starts, all other concerns are forgotten for the duration of
that activity. People with flow experience describe it closely
to the Zen term of no-mindedness or ìmushinî. There is nothing
but the activity.
5. Operating in the present. The past and future is forgotten.
There is only the activity, the Master Work. Even the term
ìpresentî is not a good description. There is only the activity.
6. Sense of relative control. You have control over the outcome
of the activity. Your efforts and concentration affects the
results in a big way.
7. Ego is lost. Somehow by concentrating on the activity, you
lose all sense of self-consciousness. Ego is diminished or
extinguished altogether. You become the activity. Things become
much easier to do because youíre not getting in your own way.
8. Time becomes malleable. If there is any sensation, time is
felt to either stretch or compress based on the circumstances.
It does not matter to the person. Time becomes irrelevant.
Will you profit from this once you find it? It will. And the
returns are priceless beyond measure because youíve found the
happiness youíve been looking for in life. So what are you
waiting for? Have a happy life.
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