Article Title: How to Turn Two Questions into a Life Changing Experience Author Name: Doug C. Grant Contact Email Address: doug @dougcgrant.com Word Count: 631 Category: Motivational/Inspirational Copyright Date: 2002 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Publishing Guidelines: Thank you for publishing this article in its entirety including the resource box. When possible, please notify me of publication by sending either a website link or a copy of your ezine upon publication via email to doug@dougcgrant.com
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HOW TO TURN TWO QUESTIONS INTO A LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE
by Doug C. Grant
Here are two questions to ask yourself:...but they must be asked and answered in a special way.
1. How am I feeling right now?
2. How would I like to feel?
Simple. Right? But don't let 'simple' fool you. There's a lot of power behind those two questions.
YOU'VE PROBABLY HEARD OF JOURNALING.
That's the process of putting your thoughts down on paper. Perhaps you've always considered it an intellectual's past time. Or maybe you think it's too much of a bore and bother. Besides, you doubt if any of your thoughts are worth putting on paper.
Back up! Let's take a second look.
Journaling is a powerful 'feel-good' tool. But here's a bit of a twist on the standard rules. I call it the Empowered Maturity Approach to Journaling. 1. You can use any old notebook or even just a piece of paper. (I like to use those small 'class-note' booklets available at any discount store. My wife prefers the full size spiral notebooks. The thicker the better.)
2. Never write for posterity. I seldom ever read past entries. They belong to yesterday. That's because I'm not keeping a diary of events. I'm primarily writing about feelings.
(I know that a dedicated journalist will have heart seizures over this approach. They have bookshelves lined with leather covered volumes. They not only enjoy rummaging through the pages of their past but feel they are writing for future generations. I write with no such pretensions. Besides, I use so many abbreviations and shorthand symbols that no one else could even begin to break the code...or want to. I trade speed for readability.)
3. Neatness doesn't matter unless scribble really bothers you. The important thing is to get your thoughts down quickly. At best, your brain will always outrun your pen.
4. Before writing anything else, start with the two questions at the beginning of this article. Don't just treat them as a mental exercise. Actually write them.
5. Finally, write out the answers to the two questions. Again, this is not a mental exercise. The actual process of writing is important.
HERE IS AN EXAMPLE.
This morning I felt fine until I woke up. Immediately I noticed I was uptight. No particular reason. But I knew by the way I was feeling, I could look forward to a day of tension and irritation.
I immediately went into my home office, grabbed my current Journaling Book and wrote this question. "Exactly how do I feel right now?"
I wrote out a top to toe analysis. I didn't bother asking why I felt the way I did. I doubt if I even knew. I just wrote what I felt.
Next, I wrote, "How would I like to feel?" I really gave my answer a workout. I wrote about feeling enthused, relaxed, full of vitality. I painted a verbal picture of marvelous health and well-being. I filled several pages of scribble about how tremendous I felt.
Notice, I didn't use future tense. I wrote as though my condition of well-being was NOW.
How did I feel when I was done? Better. Not great but definitely rambling along on a more positive track. And, as the morning progressed, the good feelings kept getting stronger.
THIS IS ONLY A START ON EMPOWERED MATURITY JOURNALING...BUT A GOOD ONE.
If you do nothing but write answers to the 'how do I feel' and 'how would I like to feel' questions, they can substitute for a lot of pills and potions. Use them whenever you experience mood slippage. Instant action can reverse a negative slide and add a lot of 'up' to what might otherwise become a miserably 'down' day.
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About the Author
Doug C. Grant retired from a successful career as a nationally recognized business writer & marketing consultant. He now helps members of the 'Over-50', crowd (or any age) live healthier, happier and more productive lives throughhis Empowered Maturity Web Site (http://www.dougcgrant.com) and an on-line interactive seminar.
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