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We often wonder why there are certain individuals we simply
abhor. While there are certain individuals that we simply love
without no apparent reason at all.
We wonder why someone as violent as Charles Manson even after he
was convicted with the Tate murders still hold control over his
many followers. While someone as good natured as Vic Bugloisi
(Manson's prosecution lawyer) was hated by Manson's many
followers?
Ah, charisma! Some people have it, some people don't. What is it
about charisma, that whether a person has it or not, everyone
cannot contest the fact that it gives a person the "edge" over
someone else. Charisma, is defined by Webster as a "quality that
enables a person, especially a leader to capture the interest,
devotion, and confidence of others."
What is it about charisma than puts the "wrong" person in the
spotlight and the right person by the sidelines? Well, some says
that there are individuals who are followed because they are
feared and still, there are others that are followed because
they are revered or have inspired their followers.
We must admit that we sometimes want to have that same effect on
other people. To attract them is such a way that they might as
well form a fans club for us. We long for even that of a simple
effect that we attract people by our sides or that they gather
around us when we speak.
There are simple steps to improving our charisma. Charisma is
first developed by a good relationship with a number or certain
people. Try to maintain this relationship a certain number of
people, because in the future, these same people are the ones
who can spread the word about you (if you plan to have a larger
number of followers) Charismatic people are witty people. They
are people who have the ability to say the right words at the
right time. Remember that these two things go hand in hand.
Without the other,, trying to improve your charisma is futile,
because even the right words can seem inappropriate if delivered
at the wrong time.
Confidence is also one thing. When we stutter all the time and
forget the words or pause to reassure mostly ourselves than our
audience, they will tend to think that you don't really know
what you are talking about.
Good looks is not a requirement but it will help all the more.
In Manson's case, he just didn't have a steady number of
followers, he also have a steady number of women he can sleep
with. When one thinks about it, most of his followers are women,
this is because Charles Manson is one heck of a hunk. You'd look
at him and won't think that this man is a serial killer. I mean,
how could he?! With his boyish looks and those adorable eyes, he
kind of looks like James Dean, and no! James Dean look alikes
are no serial killers. Well, that what everyone thought until
the court found him guilty of killing several people. Good
outward appearance can help make someone do a 180 and notice
you. This is where it can all start, before you can build a
relationship with people or before you can have some loyal
followers who actually believes in the things that you say, you
first have to make them notice you and start a conversation with
you. Or at least notice you enough, so that when you start a
conversation with them, they will not hesitate to talk to you.
These are three simple steps in improving your charisma. These
things will help you to be noticed when you're in a crowd, it
will help you have friends and/or people who believe and enjoys
the same things with you. Now, if you plan to take over some
country or the world, you would need a lot more of this. If you
want a Charles Manson or Adolf Hitler charisma, you better get
up and start researching the library, because I'm afraid I cant
help you with that.
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