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These tips on how to stop worrying come from experience. I've
always been a bit of a worrier. Thankfully, I have learned some
techniques that help me and others that have used them. Here are
the best of them.
Make A Decision
A sure way to stop worrying too much about an unresolved issue
is to make a decision. Even bad decisions may often be better
than doing nothing. You may immediately resolve the stress when
you finally decide to quit that job, buy that house, or make
that phone call. Nothing can crowd and cloud your mind with
worry quite so much as decisions waiting to be made. Just make
them, and if they prove to be bad decisions, just make new ones.
Take Action
Action towards a goal tends to diminish worry. Doing nothing but
thinking too much about a goal, especially if you dwell on the
hurdles, will cause you worry and stress. Certainly you should
plan well, but when planning drifts towards worrying, start
doing something positive.
Confront Problems
Want to know how to stop worrying when there are real problems?
Confront them head-on. When I had to sue someone over a business
matter, I was worrying about it for weeks. I finally just filed
the papers, got on the phone, and came to an agreement. My
stress was gone. In fact, my worrying dissipated as soon as
started acting, BEFORE the resolution.
Even if you tend to dwell on past losses, you can probably see
that there is more mental pain in thinking about a possible loss
than in the loss itself. Suppose you lost a thousand dollars in
the stock market a while back. Today, you would probably suffer
less from that than you would from wondering if you'll make it
on time to a concert you paid $30 for. It isn't the problems
themselves, but the anticipation of problems that causes the
most worry. Deal with them head on as soon as is possible, and
resolve them to the extent possible.
Mental Categories
When there are too many things going on in my head, I put them
on lists and feel better. Maybe you've had similar experiences.
If you're thinking too much about something, and you stop to
schedule a time to work on it, it is easier to let go of it for
now. Write down that phone call you have to make on tomorrow's
list, and you'll feel less worried now. You're creating "mental
categories." Just telling yourself, "There is nothing I can do
about this until Monday," can put a worry into a category of
"nothing to worry about now."
How To Stop Worrying By Meditating
Meditating can be a great way to relax and to stop worrying.
What if you don't want to take the time for more involved
meditative practices? Try this: just close your eyes, let the
tension out of your body and take several deep breaths through
your nose. There are also brain wave entrainment CDs that will
do all the work for you. Pop on the headphones and they'll relax
you by slowing your brain waves.
Whichever techniques you use to stop your worries, make them
into habits. Nothing works if you forget to use it. In fact,
until they become automatic, you might want to carry a list of
your favorite tips on how to stop worrying.
About the author:
Steve Gillman has been studying brainpower and related topics
for years. For more on How To Increase Brain
Power, and to get the Brain Power Newsletter and other free
gifts, visit: http://www.IncreaseBrainPower.com
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